Fellow Christian, never say this to anyone in need
Christian answers that are a turnoff
As a Christian, I believe that some answers deserve to be reserved. I know that the Bible says “You do not have because you do not ask God (James 4:2 (NIV)” and that “I (Jesus) am the way, the truth and the life (John 14:6 KJV)” but to attribute all lack to sin or prayerlessness is outright wrong.
Here are answers I’ve heard from some of my Christian friends that should never be given to anyone in need:
- You do not feel God’s presence because you have left Him
Why it is wrong: Our relationship with God is not based on feelings, but on faith. Even when we feel like He is absent, He is right there with us. When someone in pain says to you that they feel as if God has left them, speak to build up their faith because that is what they need instead of reaffirming this erroneous feeling-based relationship.
- You lost your job/money/marriage because of your sin
Why it’s wrong: It is wretched to associate any loss to sin because it is not our works that move God to act, but His grace. Besides, God has deposited great ideas in the minds of atheists because everyone was born to fulfill a unique mission. He does not take this away based on your relationship because “Our righteousness is like filthy rags (Isaiah 64:6).”
- It is a pity that you did not receive the revelation I received
Why it is wrong: Unless your revelation has passed the test of time, do not prejudge what the other person has received as pitiable. After all, they could be right and you could be wrong! You may receive different revelations because you are in different situations. People are also different and only God knows what will communicate to whom, so learn to embrace diversity and stop pitying people who do not see, hear, love or seek the same things as you.
- I am led by the Spirit of God but you are not
Why it is wrong: You cannot tell what is in a man, unless you are Jesus. Yes, we may judge by the fruits but you cannot say with absolution that this person does not have the Spirit of God in them.
- Jesus is coming on September 23 and you are still looking for money?
Why it is wrong: Man was created to “till the land” not wait for Jesus to come back. Work is what keeps us here on earth. You will only receive your reward for the work you did, not for making it to heaven. If He comes on September 23, let Him find people working. When the month ends and they/you still have bills to pay, you will know the purpose of money.
- Stop praying for a husband/wife; they will come to you when you serve God well
Why it’s wrong: God has created us for companionship, except for this category of people described in Matthew 19:12. If anyone desires to marry, let them seek a suitable match in prayer – if they believe that it is God who gives Godly spouses.
- Why go through so much pain building wealth yet you will not carry it to heaven?
Why it’s wrong: God expects us to give to the poor; how shall we give if we’re all poor? God delights in the prosperity of His servants; Jesus died so that we may be rich; Silver and gold belong to God – His children should have some. “It is God who teaches us how to make wealth”- if we’re not among those that He teaches, then who is?
- You are suffering because you lack faith/ did not pray enough
Why it’s wrong: Tribulation, trials and pain have their role in the life of a believer. God has promised to refine some people in fire (Zechariah 13:9). He also says: “The Father disciplines those that He loves (Proverbs 3:12),” and that trials produce perseverance and perseverance, maturity (James 1: 2-4).
- You will be left behind/you will go to hell
Why it’s wrong: You have already judged who will go to heaven and who will not. If God sends you to someone, go to them directly and let them know what God requires of them. If God reveals something about someone to you, it’s not to shame or condemn them. Even Jonathan did not tell David “You will not go to Heaven” but rather “God is displeased with you.” Still, God calls this king “A man after my own heart.”
Jesus said there is a place set for everyone and that He did not have the authority to determine who sits where. He said: “But I have no right to say who will sit on my right or my left. God has prepared those places for the ones he has chosen (Mark 10:40 NLT).”
- This message will change so and so
Why it’s wrong: People who are self-righteous pass every correction over to the next person. They have already become perfect. When they receive a message in the dream, they rush to give it to others who “need it” instead of first thinking about what God is trying to tell them. They hear a sermon or read something, they quickly post it to social media without even digesting it thinking “the other person needs it more.” If you came across it first (and probably felt the need to continue reading), it is definitely your message. Let it work on you first before taking it to others. Futhermore, you do not know what will change someone and what will not change them.